Carrie Underwood announced back in August that she is expecting baby #2 with husband Mike Fisher. Carrie and Mike were delighted to be expanding their family, but what we didn't know was that they had been trying for another baby for two years.
In 2017 and 2018, Carrie was pregnant three times; each of those pregnancies ended in a miscarriage. When Carrie became pregnant a fourth time, she feared another miscarriage, and admits she was angry with God for her fertility struggles.
“I’d kind of planned that 2017 was, you know, going to be the year that I work on new music, and I have a baby,” said Underwood, whose son Isaiah Michael was born in 2015. “We got pregnant early 2017, and didn’t work out.”
During that difficult time, Underwood said she leaned into her faith.
“In the beginning, it was like, ‘Okay, God, we know this is, just wasn’t Your timing. And that is all right. We will bounce back and figure our way through it,'” she said.
That outlook became increasingly difficult to maintain after Underwood suffered a second miscarriage in 2017 and then a third in 2018 — although she still felt “afraid to be angry” as the couple had already been “so blessed” with a wonderful child.
“My son, Isaiah, is the sweetest thing. And he’s the best thing in the world. And I’m like, ‘If we can never have any other kids, that’s okay, because he’s amazing.’ And I have this amazing life. Like, really, what can I complain about? I can’t,” she continued. “I have an incredible husband, incredible friends, an incredible job, an incredible kid. Can I be mad? No.”
But when she thought she might be suffering a fourth miscarriage, “I got mad,” Underwood told CBS News’ Tracy Smith.
She went on to reveal that one of her most emotional moments came as she cuddled with her son and thought, “Why on Earth do I keep getting pregnant if I can’t have a kid? Like, what is this? Shut the door. Like, do something. Either shut the door or let me have a kid.”
“And for the first time, I feel like I actually I told God how I felt,” she added. “That was like a Saturday — and the Monday I went to the doctor to, like, confirm, another miscarriage. And they told me everything was great!”
She said, “He heard me.”
I know so many women--including my mother, and several of my friends--who have endured miscarriages. I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy. And I think Carrie's story should serve as a reminder to all of us that, while some women have no difficulty getting pregnant, many do. We may mean well when we ask, "When are you going to get pregnant," or "Why don't you have any kids?" but those conversations can be very painful for these women who have experienced miscarriages. I remember seeing SO many interviews where Carrie was asked when she and Mike were going to have a second child, and I'm sure it was really painful knowing she'd just lost a pregnancy, and then having to say, "It'll happen in God's timing," and trying to stay composed on camera. Just something to think about.
We're very happy for Carrie and Mike, and wish her a healthy pregnancy, and a healthy baby!